After the funeral



You may encounter the phrase, “in lieu of flowers, please send donations to…”

If the family has requested donations to a specific cause or charity in lieu of flowers, you can choose whether to make such a donation. If you do, the etiquette is to do it within 10 days of the funeral service so that the family can include you when writing thank you notes after the funeral.

Bereavement Counselling

The loss of someone can be devastating and few are prepared for the impact of emotions afterwards. Bereavement affects people in different ways and there is no right or wrong way to experience it. However some people find the adjustment very difficult to cope with and when this feeling lasts a long time then bereavement counselling can help.

Bereavement and Aftercare Support

The death of a family member or friend can be one of the most traumatic experiences in anyone’s life and many people find it hard to come to terms with such a loss. Whilst most people find the strength to cope with the bereavement immediately following a death, it is after the funeral when life is supposed to return to normal that many experience the natural effects of grief. Coping with bereavement is often a solitary process, frequently faced without the aid of family or professional help.


Preserving Funeral Flowers

Losing a loved one is hard and the flowers you choose to say farewell are often of great personal significance to you.

By preserving your flowers and framing them with special items such as a photograph or a poem, they can be turned into a lasting tribute.

Planting a tree

You can dedicate single trees, acres or even personalised benches and grove posts in a selection of woods around the UK.


When arranging the funeral, you may not have been sure of the final resting place for the deceased’s ashes. It may therefore be necessary to make final arrangements at the time or allow more time for a decision. There are a number of options and choices in this area and we will be pleased to discuss all possibilities, give advice about local regulations and the costs involved.

What can I do with the Ashes?

Ashes can be scattered, buried or kept. We strongly recommend you allow time to consider all options.

Monumental Masonry

A Lasting Focal Point

Your choice for permanent memorialisation provides you and your family a lasting focal point for healing and strength. Whether you decide on a memorial at home, a special area at the cemetery, or a ceremonial or complete scattering, or some combination of these, it’s an ongoing expression of love in the celebration of a beautiful life.

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